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How to stop being a hypocrite
by Shevach Pepper
There are a few ways that people deal with this awful feeling.
One way is through 'denial', meaning you just dont admit to yourself that your actions dont meet up with your words. You lecture your child about the harms of being overweight and you convince yourself that you arent overweight but just born with a 'big frame'. This lie works for a little while but eventually it catches up to you and then you once again feel that aching pain in the pit of your stomach.
Another way is to deny that there is a problem. For instance, you tell yourself and your children that there is nothing wrong with being overweight. You tell yourself that scientists, researches, and doctors tell us that it is dangerous to be fat only because they are funded by pharmaceutical and diet companies. This strategy is dangerous because the problem gets worse and worse until...... There is a strategy to stop being a hypocrite that is simple, effective, and is also free! All you have to be is sensitive and honest with yourself and the other person.
For instance, in the case above about being overweight.
*Admit to yourself that you are overweight.
*Dont berate yourself for this (it doesnt help) but realize that it is VERY DIFFICULT to stop overeating and that you dont always have the strength to do it.
*Lecture with compassion and sensitivity. Dont yell, 'Dont you realize what you are doing to yourself! Why dont you just stop eating!'. (This is being hypocritical) Rather IDENTIFY with her situation and say, 'I know that it is so hard to stop eating. Eating is so calming. I myself am a slave to eating. Your still young. Pull yourself together and try to break this habit.'
As long as you admit to yourself that you are not perfect, dont like the situation that you are in, and that you would like to change you are NOT being a hypocrite. (A father sentenced to a jail sentence is not a hypocrite if he tells his son to 'stay clean' so as to not end up like him.)
Try it and you will see that your child will also realize that you are authentic and not a faker and will begin to listen to what you say.
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